FIBROMYALGIA SYNDROME is Not a Fashionable Label

Stop telling people that you “think” Fibromyalgia is a symptom of something, or a “catch-all” label for something that can’t be otherwise identified.  If you are a public speaker, or have any kind of a public following, you are not helping us by doing that.  If you are not a physician educated on the topic, or a patient living with this SYNDROME, just stop.  It has taken many, many years, and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears, to finally be taken seriously by the medical community and even a portion of the public, and it is a very definite individual diagnosis even qualifying as a stand-alone application for disability!  Quit trying to drag us backwards.

Educating yourself on this topic is not all that difficult these days.  This is not about conjecture and philosophizing about the causes of it.  You can speculate all day long about why you think it happens to *some* people but that does not make it any less legitimate, nor does it invalidate the diagnosis and make something unworthy of proper medical recognition.  It is a neurological condition.  Some choose to use medication to manage it, and some of us choose to stick with natural means, but it does require management and treatment either way.

When someone with a public following makes a proclamation that they think something like FMS is some kind of emotional issue, it only makes life more difficult for those of us trying to manage it in our lives.  You are validating completely uneducated and critical friends and family of ours and creating more problems that we don’t need.  Do us a favor and just don’t try to speak on the topic if you can’t be bothered to catch up with current info.  I am not advocating for anyone to not deal with emotional damage if they have it.  Please just do not label Fibromyalgia as being solely an outcropping from something like that.  The two issues are distinctly individual, and can exist independent of the other.  Even if some traumatic event was the trigger that set it in motion, mending emotional pain is not a guarantee to end the manifestation of the syndrome.  It shows up quite often in autoimmune patients for a reason.  Nobody has figured that out yet but it IS on the suspected list for being autoimmune itself.  Stop making our work harder for us.


Dear Doctor…

Dear Doctor,

I need to be able to trust you.  I am not a healthy patient or I would not need your services.  I need to be treated not only medically, but also with respect and dignity as a patient in your care.  I need to be regarded as a valuable human individual, regardless of my age, gender, ethnicity, financial status, or any other defining characteristics.  I have rights as a patient.

As a patient, my needs come first, not your reputation.  Not your “scores”.  Not your time.  Not your students.  Me.  I am ill… and the honest truth is that when treated well, you could not ask for a better patient than me, because I want to take care of myself.  It’s just that sometimes I can’t do it on your schedule, because your schedule does not exist in my daily life.  Mine does.  What exists in my life is bills (besides the ones from you), and expenses like food, fuel in my car, house payments, all other manner of care items from taking care of my fragile hair down to clipping my toenails that seem to be getting harder to reach each year.  What’s important to me is getting my tires rotated, changing the oil, and wondering what that noise is that is driving me nuts every time I drive somewhere.  Important is trying to keep dishes washed, and make sure I don’t run out of things like drinking water, healthy fresh foods, and basics like bathroom tissue and toothpaste.  It’s critical that I can fill the medications I cannot go without, and get the supplements that keep me feeling reasonably functional.  Those are just the financial stresses (and add into that the unexpected emergencies, and things like dental and eye care that I really can’t afford anyway).  That doesn’t account for what my entire day is like, from waking up feeling beat, and trying to brush my hair without dropping my hairbrush, to worrying about aging parents and growing godchildren that I have so little energy to give time to.  My day… my world… is about all of those things before I even cross the threshold of your office.  You’re a blip on my radar, and yet… I give you undivided attention and time once there.  I deserve the same in return.

I’ll reiterate: As an individual, you could not ask for a better patient.  One of you once told me not to expect.  Not to expect much recovery.  Not to expect improvement.  They used the word “permanent” (damage), and they were wrong.  So why should I trust anyone now?  Yet… I do try to do so.  I have proven that I am dedicated to taking care of my health (and my heart) by proving that bad prognosis wrong.  By exercising, changing the way that I eat, and taking the right meds and supplements… by doing what I said I would do.  To act like I won’t is an insult, and because of my life which keeps happening when you are not around, I cannot help that sometimes it takes me longer than you wish it would to get some appointments or tests done.  I don’t always have the money.  I used to have great health insurance, by the way, Doc.  I had it covered.  Now… the insurance carrier is the only one that seems to care less than you do.  I pay, and I pay, and I pay… and they don’t pay.  So yes, it takes me time to set aside enough to take care of what YOU want done, and it’s not my fault.  I’m doing the best that I can.  I’m human.  While you are considering that statement about me being human, please realize that my medical needs don’t stop while I’m struggling to meet your personal guidelines of what you think has to happen.  Holding medication refills hostage seems to me to fall into a malpractice category of failure to treat.  That seems to be the new practice too.  “Sorry you can’t afford to see me AND refill your meds, but you have to see me… even though you won’t be able to pay for the refills I will give you after you’ve run in and out of my office several times a year.”  I’d like to hear you just say it that way once to be honest.  Apparently that’s my problem, not yours, so you can’t be bothered to help with it.  I’m doing the best that I can… so, why aren’t you?

By the way, your veneers are great.  You have a beautiful smile.  I’d like to get some work done myself that is concerning so I can chew without pain.  I’m willing to bet I can’t afford your dentist, so I don’t need a referral on that… thanks.  But you.. you look great.

There was a time, Doc… when physicians worked with their patients and listened to their needs as an individual.  Humanity has been shoved into a crate and warehoused.  While I choke on my $45 copay, remembering when it was $25, you’re happily cashing in on the $450 you charge my insurance company and I guess because of that… you think it’s chump change I’m putting out.  That $45 is a tank of gas.  It’s a week of groceries.  It’s my water bill.  It’s some basic and essential need.

I live with a stress-triggered illness.  You and your agenda should not be a source of stress for me.  Your job is to assist me in staying well and reducing stress, but these days it seems like you are working overtime to make my life even more difficult.  Try not to forget that when I leave your office, I have to go home and recover from the fluorescent lights, exposure to noise and temp changes, and unfamiliar environment, and people poking and prodding and asking intrusive questions, and feeling like a guinea pig… and I started off tired so now I am exhausted.  Believing that you are at least sensitive to how this visit will demolish the rest of my day would help.  I only have enough energy for just so many tasks per day.  Doctor appointments cut into the energy for the next day as well as this one.  That’s a big deal in my world.

In this… I am not unique.  Everyone needs a care provider that actually provides care, and that they can trust, and on a daily basis I am seeing less and less provision for needs.  Stop blaming “guidelines” and insurance companies and take personal responsibility for your own actions, Doc.  Compassion and respect don’t cost you a dime and they should be part of your routine.

The 1.5 Million Lupus patients in the United States



THRIVING With Invisible Illness

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I have to keep talking about this two-sided coin.  I will advocate all day long for autoimmune and neurological patients deserving compassion, respect, and accommodations for their health conditions, and I am going to advocate for all of us to reach for as much as we can grasp in our lives as well.  We live in a very strange zone that is unique to our very unusual health profiles.  Most healthy people that we encounter are going to have a very difficult time understanding it initially.  Some may never “get” the half of it.

I was very invested in watching Steve Irwin’s programs before his tragic death.  His vitality and energy, and the sheer joy you could see it sparked in him to interact with nature the way that he did was just so amazing.  He took chances that made me cringe at times, but I can’t be any more critical of…

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How Bad Do You Want It?

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How much time do you spend worrying, instead of doing something that you love?

I’ll be the first one to tell you that I worry and feel anger by first nature.  In coming to a place in life where that becomes dysfunctional, you can’t simply change the core of who you are.  That is however the moment to redirect and learn to channel those energies into something motivating and functional.  No one else can hold you to higher standards for you, so it’s up to you as an individual to decide that you want better.

Your attitude determines your altitude.. I’ve mentioned this before.  In my former religious studies, I remember learning that when you don’t have a job you still get up every day as though you do.  You shower, brush your hair, dress, and prepare for the day because you still have a life and a purpose.  If…

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“Why Can’t You Work?” – Invisible Illness From the Inside

I’ve been mulling over how to address this very directly for a few weeks now.  As I am watching friends go through the same questions that I have faced in the past, I think it’s time to spell some things out.  If you have a friend or relative that has an autoimmune disease like Lupus, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Multiple Sclerosis, or other invisible illness like Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Lyme Disease in chronic stage, or neurological conditions like Fibromyalgia and Dysautonomia… I don’t say something like this often but I am BEGGING YOU to take the time to read this blog entry.  If you truly care about that person, take a few minutes out of this one day and inform yourself about what their day will be like today.  PLEASE.

I want to encapsulate as much pertinent information as I can here.  It does however require some insights that may be foreign to the average healthy individual.  I cannot ask you to put yourselves in our shoes, because you’ve never been in them.  You can only use your imagination and then from there take our word for it about the things that you have not fully experienced.  I will also add that I genuinely hope that everyone reading this that has not experienced one of these conditions NEVER DOES, and I mean that.  I literally would not wish my life on my worst enemy (and I have some people out there that I can actually say that I hate.. as strong of a word as that is.)

I have written before what my day is like from the time I wake up and the tedium that goes into each move and decision.  I won’t detail it the same way again, because it’s already been done.  I will shorten it here by saying that as a Lupus and Fibromyalgia patient, with autonomic dysfunction and other comorbid conditions, every single finite detail has to be approached for what it is singularly, when a healthy individual can execute several in one smooth motion.  I don’t open my eyes immediately.  I don’t sit up suddenly.  I don’t hop out of bed and walk anywhere without first sitting up for a minute to see how I feel, then stopping again once I am on my feet for the same reason – before taking one step.  Imagine your whole day having to be analyzed that way whenever there is a change in activity, venue, or position.  If I have been in the chair at my desk for more than a few minutes, when I stand up I have to be careful.  My blood pressure drops 20 to 30 points (medically documented) and people with that condition are at risk for passing out.  It’s called Orthostatic Hypotension, and happens with something called Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS) which is a Dysautonomia condition.  This is Dysautonomia Awareness Month, by the way.  You might want to take the time to look that up and learn a little.  It is neurological, and incurable – just like the other diseases I’ve mentioned.  They can all only be treated and managed, and most of them are progressive.  At the very least, some of them cause progressive symptomatic manifestation, even if they don’t cause direct damage to the patient’s body.  The stress caused by lack of sleep, lack of REM sleep, difficulty absorbing nutrients, adrenal exhaustion, cardiac strain, dehydration, constant firing in the central nervous system, and more than I could possibly name here has a deleterious effect on you.  It’s debilitating, even when the disease itself is not considered progressive and debilitating (as with Fibromyalgia).  The human body can only endure so much strain over time.  Things begin to break down.  Other diseases and damage creep in. In the case of something like Lupus, internal organs take damage during flares because the immune system is attacking healthy tissues in every possible system in the body.  You cannot predict where it will attack either.  Sometimes it takes time to find the problem and try to get it under control.  This is why some Lupus patients end up needing chemotherapy as a treatment.  Their immune system is so over-active and out of control that it has to be severely suppressed.  That’s to keep us from… you know… dying.  People die from the complications of Lupus every day.  It’s that blunt.

Now that I’ve explained the basics of the diseases… here is why it is disabling enough to stop a lot of us from holding employment.  Let me first say that I applaud anyone that is able to work, and I hope you continue for a long time.  Your strength is admirable and I’m happy that you have your conditions managed well enough to allow it.  For our healthy friends, we’ll address what happens with those of us that can’t, when we can’t.  One preface: This is variable for some people.  Sometimes a patient is able to go back to work and continue for a while, and then they crash again.  Sometimes it’s temporary and sometimes it’s not.  Autoimmune patients tend to be overachievers, people that started working young and were driven to continue for many years without a break.  People that started college young.  Women that excelled in fields that are primarily male-dominated.  Many were athletes.  We tend to go until we drop.  When that happens, it’s a hard crash.  We tend to ignore pain and fatigue because it’s just in our nature to do so.. but when you ignore your body’s signals, it can cause a lot of damage.  Most especially in the case of a disease that is as destructive as Systemic Lupus and it’s friends.  To be clear, there is no way to mediate how this disease will eventually manifest to any sufficient degree.  It absolutely IS progressive, even when caught early and treated early.  The only thing you can do with a medication like Plaquenil (what I take) is slow it down, and how much you slow it down depends on the individual – things out of our control entirely, like genetics, environmental exposures, the weather, and the randomness of the disease itself.  We only have control over a few things and I encourage other patients every single day to do what they are able, from eating right to exercise and reducing stress where they can.  That’s important for regaining and maintaining quality of life.  It is not however a stop sign for Lupus.  We’re all on a timer that we have some input for but no real control over.  It’s also… just that blunt.  Those of us that have the disease are fully aware of it even when we don’t discuss it openly.  We are trying to enjoy the years we have with as best quality as we can get without dwelling on the future decline we may face.

To interject before anyone thinks it, this is not the same as the normal decline of age in a healthy individual.  We face all of the things that you will but sometimes 20 to 30 years earlier than we should, and more of them together than the average healthy individual.  It’s a storm and it arrives too soon.  Please don’t try to compare it to your normal aging experience.  If you already had your healthy youth, then you don’t know what it’s like to miss out on that.

Just as a side thought… When our acquaintances keep asking intrusive questions about WHY can’t you do this, or WHY can’t you do that, it makes us have to stop and think about the negatives a bit too much.  I don’t mind people asking questions about my illness and I am an open book.  My entire world however is about awareness and advocacy.  This IS my job, along with taking care of me so that I can stay functional enough to create the awareness videos and other projects.  I have committed to that alone because I am able to do that.  I do it for everyone that cannot.  Some people can’t do what I do, and all they can do is try to manage their symptoms and the progression of their illness in silence.  Don’t push them too hard.  They may be more fragile than you realize.  Words hurt.  Disbelief HURTS.  Badgering in areas where you do not understand the reasons and circumstances is not helpful to anyone and it seriously just makes you look like an ass.  I can’t say it any other way.  If that sounds offensive, consider it a dish back out for the offenses dished out onto us.  Even if you are someone that believes in “tough love” (and I personally do, for the record), it’s not your place to chastise someone that is already fighting to survive and to keep their head above water.  Unless you have actually taken the time to be an intimate part of their support system, and you have earned to be entrusted with the details of what their day is like, you honestly have no idea what you are talking about.  I hate to be so exclusive, but I am being frank for a reason.  I have seen too many friends being harassed and hurt by people that think they mean well.

I am not able to hold a job.  If I dressed myself up and went for an interview right now, I could make myself appear qualified (other than a really out of date resume’) and lie to an employer about being reliable.  I would have to lie, because I am not reliable.  The question has got to be in a lot of people’s minds as to why I can hike, camp, and do other outdoor sports, and have this big project for Half Dome planned, but I can’t hold a job.  This is why I started the video series this year on my YouTube channel called “The Price We Pay”.  I can do it, on my own schedule, in the timing that my body allows, and then I pay for it later.  Up until this year, I wasn’t sharing the aftermath.  I was only showing the accomplishments to encourage others.  I realized they were missing something vital about my process and not getting the full picture, and I realized that had to change.  An employer isn’t going to accept you calling up one morning and saying that you can’t be in today, maybe not tomorrow or the next few days, but you’re not really sure… and it could be a few weeks or months, can’t say.  That is the reality of Autoimmune Diseases in particular, and several neurological conditions as well.  I happen to have some of each – that’s a common problem.  We all see wealthy celebrities “forging ahead” and continuing to work as well, and they are probably spending a ton of money on the very best treatments so they can stay on their feet longer, but I guarantee you they are crashing later too.  You just don’t SEE it happen.  I am willing to show the world my pain afterwards, but not everyone has the emotional strength to be that honest either.  Understand that on my own schedule, I can cancel a plan or activity without notice.  It affects no one but me.  I can decide that even though last night I thought I was going to get up early and hike, today I just can’t.  I do that on a regular basis.  Not everyone knows about that part;  it’s not important to announce.  I can also guarantee you that anyone else that you know with one of these diseases is doing the exact same thing.  Again… an employer cannot accommodate that.  They will not.  There are a few cases where someone manages to get a work-at-home situation but it’s not terribly common.  It usually requires some specialized experience or skill too, or having had the job in a location for a time first.  Some people are also not equipped to meet the deadlines those type of jobs require.  They may be too dysfunctional even at home to be reliable there.

There is a well-known set of statements that all of us in the rheumatic autoimmune community have seen and heard repetitively.

One of them goes like this: My friend so-and-so has that and they work full time. 

Another: My aunt had that and she took aspirin and got on with her life. She was just fine.

Also: I have back pain too but I have to get things done and I power through it.

Stop telling us that life is hard.  We are fully aware of that, and in fact we empathize with whatever aches and pains anyone on the planet has had to endure – probably more than you are capable of understanding, in reality.  Some of us (not me) started off with normal, healthy lives, and had many years of activity and athleticism, and great memories that are now haunting us.  Personally, I was born not quite right.  I’ve had chronic pain since childhood and I have no idea what it’s like to have a totally pain-free day.  Chew on that concept for a few minutes.  You still want to be me?  Do you still want all of my “spare time” to enjoy what I endure?  I doubt it.  I have moments where I am having fun like anyone else.  You really do not want what goes with the copious “spare time” though.  Trust me.

If you have never read The Spoon Theory, please look it up.  It’s a great analogy that explains how our energy is limited for everything we have to get done in a day, even ordinary things that everyone does.  It’s written by Christine Miserandino and a copy can be found on the Lupus Foundation of America’s website. 

I wish there were a way to adequately describe to a healthy person, or someone with the usual and common health conditions that happen to many and come with age… the depth of what it is like to have an immune system that is literally trying to KILL YOU.  If you’ve seen someone say that and dismissed it, you need to understand that it is not being stated merely as an expression.. like when someone says “My feet are killing me.”  No.  I mean KILL YOU.  Dead.  Your immune system is supposed to protect you.  It’s a ready and armed military unit, and when it goes haywire like ours has, it will look for anything to attack.  Your eyesight.  Your heart (like me).  Your kidneys.  Your muscles (me).  Your connective tissues (most of us).  Your central nervous system (I have that too).  Your skin.  Your reproductive organs. Your teeth and gums. Your bones.  Your hair.  Everything is subject to attack.  I’ve lost about 40% of the hair I used to have, maybe more.  That’s “just” an emotional impact but I still feel it.  That started before I was even 30 yrs old.  Sometimes, some days, there is so much pain and fatigue that you can’t tell where it is all coming from.  It’s just everywhere.  Others maybe it’s one or two joints, but something still hurts.  When you have neurological involvement, along with the random stabs that feel like someone is sticking you with an ice pick, you’re simply so depleted that your muscles won’t respond as needed.  I can go from one day working with weights at the gym to the next day unable to crack the seal on a new water bottle.  There is no way to predict these changes.  How does one plan a life around that?  We can’t make firm plans for anything.  Don’t anyone dare try to tell me that life is random, and no one is assured of things going perfectly one day to the next.  I am totally aware of that too.  You however, as a healthy individual, can go to bed at night with relative certainty that when you wake up tomorrow your body will be as functional as it was when you went to lie down.  Most of the time, there won’t be any significant changes in the night.  For us… that is never, EVER true.  Every single day is faced as a new slate with unknown factors that could be good surprises, or a month-long horror show.

This is the one reason it is so important for an autoimmune patient to learn to embrace moments and love every second of the ones that work out right.  This is why some of us reach hard to do the occasional off the wall thing like a tandem skydive, or a trip that is offered to us, or any experience that we’ve long dreamt about.  It’s almost a requirement for us to have a bucket list because it gives us reasons to keep breathing at times.  Not every disability is visible.  Having a disability also does not require us to hole up in the house, look miserable, and cut off all social contacts like we aren’t fit for humanity.  Yet… we always, always have people looking sideways at us if we even dare to crack a smile or laugh at a joke.  God forbid one of us goes out for an ice cream cone, or sees a movie, because we are expected to not have a life at all.  We are not allowed to enjoy anything and talk about it because the second that we do, someone is there asking well if you can do that, why can’t you do THIS?  If I am on my own time, and I am in control of saying when I have to stop, possibly go home, probably lie down, then you can darn well shut your mouth about what I do with my “spare time”.  Having gone through the agony that I did in 2006 when I couldn’t even stand up under my own power, if I find enjoyment in something I am going to do it!  Your approval is neither required nor desired.

If a cancer patient had wishes, people would stand up and cheer them on.  They would say how sweet it was of people to provide them opportunities, and how brave they are for still participating in life.  Autoimmune and neuro patients though?  If we take one step out the door for anything other than a Dr appointment, suddenly there must be “nothing wrong with us”, and we can’t possibly be that sick.  ARE YOU SERIOUS WITH THAT?  Get out of here.  If that’s how you think of me or any of my friends then get off my blog, get off my social media, unfriend me, and don’t ever talk to me again!  I am done.  If anyone wants me to choose, here it is.  Those that have been there for me through the worst, and cheered me on both through that and the best… those that have proven they are trustworthy, honorable, sincere, and genuinely loving friends are deeply appreciated.  You will go with me all the way to Half Dome, and more.  I love you for that.  Anyone that thinks any of us are faking it, milking it, or making more of it than it is, BYE.  Either get educated and get with the program or GTFO.  NO MORE ABUSE.

Be a grown-up.  Realize that you don’t know everything about someone else’s life.  Try asking and listening instead of talking and assuming.  It develops character.



Right to Die, California

Everyone has mixed emotions on this topic; let’s just be honest about that.  It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you are on, or if you’re right on that fence, it’s not as simple as feeling one way or the other about it. It’s okay to feel conflicted, by the way.  That too is a natural part of our lives.  It’s part of the critical thinking process, and without those “checks” we would never question anything… which could lead to some bad results.  I am only here to say that everyone should have a choice and this law gives us a choice.  If it is not what you want for yourself, then do not choose that option.  That part is exactly that simple.

Often I see a lot of people adding their opinion to the discussion without actually having suffered anything terrible in their own life.  Unless you have been in intractable pain, you can’t come close to understanding it.  Unless you have gotten a catastrophic diagnosis, you don’t know how you will handle it.  Without having been told that your prognosis could lead to an ugly end, or watching a loved one go through it, you don’t have any experience on which to base your evaluation of how you will feel if it does happen.  This is the same mentality that speaks against pain medication when that individual has never had pain bad enough to actually need it.  That’s a very individual situation.  Not everyone processes the same.

I am all about fighting with all that you have while you can.  I talk all the time about being a warrior and working for the best quality of life you can get, and I believe in not buying into every bad prognosis a Dr hands down.  Absolutely.  There does however come a time when the body is shutting down, organs are dying, and there is nothing else to be done.  An individual in that condition should have the right to not suffer.  There are so many neurological conditions that leave you with zero quality of life, things that leave you with intractable pain that cannot be controlled without putting you into a coma (which means there is no quality of life because you’re not living your life at all), and that is what this law is about.  The tinfoil hat crowd is screaming about people being “told to kill themselves”, or any number of other ridiculous theories and I’m over it.  This is about giving a choice to severely suffering terminal patients, and nothing else.

There is a lot more than could be said.. but honestly I think this is the simple stuff.  Choice.  This is not a religious discussion but one of humanity.  If my body is no longer useful and I am out of my mind, I think I am done.  I would not be me anymore.  Quality of life comes first, not longevity.

I see this as no different than respecting a DNR, or terminating life support when reasonable hope has been exhausted.  It is not noble, or dignified, to suffer till your last horrible gasp of breath just to comfort your loved ones that you are still “alive” by some technical definition of the word.  The only shred of hope for “dignity in death” is to have the option of an out before it becomes quite that ugly.

I have seen people claim that they knew people that went through such an illness and they were brave, noble, etc… It’s not bravery.  We are genetically inclined to want to reduce the suffering of others, even when it is only emotional.  Chronic pain and illness patients, just so everyone knows, are experts at covering how they feel.  We don’t reveal all to our loved ones because we don’t want to distress them.  So that person that you think was so brave and noble may not have been.  They may just have been sparing your feelings.  Food for thought.


EDIT – additional thought after a few discussions:
I have no issue with someone having their own beliefs in this matter and feeling that it would be the wrong choice *for themselves*.  The problem I am seeing happen is too common and typical, unfortunately.. and that is how many are telling everyone else in the country that it is a “sin” and wrong.  Wrong for you maybe.  To be clear, the word sin means “to miss the mark” – it’s an archery term.  That sounds extremely personal to me.  If something is missing the mark for your own standards, then don’t do it.  There are literally thousands of religions on this planet and no matter what my personal belief system is, it would be arrogant to assume that I have the only correct and precise one for everybody.  What I think is that there will be a lot of surprised people all said and done, and no one really knows what is on the other side until they are there.  That being the case, what I am saying is that everyone needs to stop trying to dictate to others whether they have a right to alleviate suffering or not.  I also find it extremely hypocritical to pop a pain pill for anything and then say that this bill is wrong.  Either you believe in non-intervention, or you don’t.  You cannot cherry pick this.  If you are a Christian Scientist, as I understand it you do not seek medical treatments for anything.  In that case, you’re at least being very honest and on a straight path with clear intentions.  Anyone else is just doing like most people in the history of the world does, and creating their own belief system as they go along.  I have yet to meet anyone that is perfectly true to a specific set of religious ideals without their own mind creeping into it somewhere along the way.  Everyone… I mean EVERYONE has something, somewhere that doesn’t line up with the rest of their flock.  That’s human nature for you.

You have the right to decline the option of this law for your own beliefs.  You do not have the right to point fingers and shame people that believe differently than you do.

At Least as Important

Invariably when I post something that is very blunt and honest about issues I’ve observed, there is always at least one if not 2 or 3 people that will message me asking if it’s “about them”. Please. Just stop. If something I said strikes a nerve, you need to examine your own issues. If I have something to say to ONE PERSON, I will say it directly to that one person. Words sometimes work like a mirror but it’s not my fault if it makes you uncomfortable. If you didn’t get a private message, then it’s not all about you, Narcissus. Stop drowning yourself.

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I’m going to start this post off with a bit of a nerd insert.  It’s part of the dialogue between Cptn. Kirk and his son in Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan.

David: Lieutenant Saavik was right: You never have faced death.

Kirk: No, not like this. I haven’t faced death. I’ve cheated death. I’ve tricked my way out of death and — patted myself on the back for my ingenuity. I know nothing . . .

David: You knew enough to tell Saavik that how we face death is at least as important as how we face life.

Kirk: Just words.

David: But good words! That’s where ideas begin. Maybe you should listen to them. [hesitant] I was wrong about you . . . and I’m sorry.

I debated whether to post this on Tala’s Reflections – my first blog – or here… I think here is…

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No Limits, But Know Limits

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Einstein said, “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”  I won’t boast to think that I know what precise meaning he attached to these words, but I can discuss what it means to me.

In social media, I use the hashtag #NoLimits a lot.  It is meaningful after being told what my limitations were and what I could no longer do after certain injuries and health conditions entered the picture.  My friends and close followers have seen me throw down in more than one social media scrap over this topic too, and probably more of them in recent months.  As I continue to claw my way back into capabilities and strengths, I find it an even greater offense for anyone to try to put us “defectives” in a closed box.  (Please don’t get mad at me for using the word “defective” here and there… it’s a reference to the…

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You Were Fine a Minute Ago…

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Rheumatic autoimmune disease in particular has a habit of presenting symptoms that are unpredictable.  They can sneak up and take you to the ground unexpectedly, and mercilessly.  (For some people that is quite literal, not just metaphorical.)  I asked some of my friends for input on this because I’ve been mulling the topic over for a few days now, and I wanted to hear perspectives.  I am (anonymously) including some excerpts from that conversation here.  I hear them echoing my own experiences and frustrations.

The typical patient – anyone with Lupus, RA, Fibromyalgia, Lyme disease, Cushings, MS, Sickle Cell, Dysautonomia, Myofascial Pain, Chronic Fatigue, any Chronic pain… is always dealing with symptoms.  The amount, degree, and intensity varies, but we are nearly always symptomatic.  With a disease like Lupus, we don’t even have a true remission.  We can achieve clinical quiescence but to be totally symptom-free is not really a…

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Not Defined By Ignorance

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Every day there is a new reason to work harder at maintaining some Zen for my own good.  Every day there are bigger challenges to keeping a focused and uninflamed mental state over the things with which I am confronted and it’s not easy.  There is always someone that thinks they know what your life should be like when you are ill and/or disabled.  Always someone ready to tell you what you cannot or should not do.

I would love to be able to tell you that I can just let it roll off my back.  I am not there yet, and I don’t know that I ever will be there 100% – remember I said that I would be honest about these things?  It DOES bother me when people say ugly things.  I’m not saying that I always deal with the feelings poorly, because that varies.  I am just saying…

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