Life is as much about finding out the things you cannot do, as the things you can. I think it’s just better to look at the “can nots” as things that don’t belong on your “can” list. Not everything is suited to everyone, and it isn’t necessarily biting off more than you can chew when it turns out that it isn’t. You may have just selected the wrong menu item. Don’t be afraid of learning which strengths and weaknesses belong to you.
I find this out with my studies on a regular basis. Some subjects are a means to an end, but I find that the in-depth background detail required to get a documented education on some of them so mind-numbing that I just can’t stomach the investment of time. I am always loathe to admit defeat, but a teacher recently pointed out the above truth to me in the matter. She was 100% right… it isn’t a failure, just a different kind of lesson. If dragging yourself through a subject feels like walking on broken glass and you will end up with a barely passing grade (if you’re lucky), to me that is not a worthwhile investment. With the difficulties I face for any study, it’s in my best interest to choose the subjects in which I can excel. Finding my aptitude for medical terminology to be so good, I did extremely well in that class. This week I had to tell myself that it’s okay to let go of the things that aren’t working and go look for the ones that will.
I have said many times that I am starting my life over after 40. This is part of what that is about. Trial… sometimes error… more trial… some successes… and all of it perfectly acceptable. I think I come from just old enough a generation to find this new technological world still a little daunting at times. I’m comfortable with it. I just lack the knowledge of how to use it in certain areas. We just keep going, and inevitably keep growing.