Leadership & Loyalty
I do not use the word Friend lightly. I’ve blogged about this in the past, but this time it is not to point out that I have few that I feel deserve that title. This time it is to point out that I am loyal to those I consider to be a Friend.
I recently witness a hissy fit of astronomic proportions that had a fall-out affecting many, many people unnecessarily. It amazes me that in this day and age of enlightenment and technology, people still have not learned how to manage modem communication with some reasonable amount of maturity. Any idiot with a keyboard can create a group, or run one that someone else created, but it takes a responsible and sensitive commitment to the members and a realization that they all have human needs to run one WELL. If you’re going to label it for a specified purpose, then you have to be doubly concerned with what you put out there. When you say you’re offering some kind of “support“, then you’re responsible for damage done when you lash out at others without just provocation. I find it even more offensive when management disagreements aren’t handled internally, and with due process. Having an emotional reaction and just pushing a button that cuts someone off from hundreds of friends doesn’t make you a leader. It makes you a nasty brat. Yes, I said it. Selfish beyond belief.
I care about what I saw because a dear Friend was hurt unnecessarily. Hurt to the point that her health suffered, and I’m not okay with that. I care because I know there are others affected by the situation as well that have now been deprived of that Friend’s presence and caring input.
A leader is not defined by wielding power. A leader is defined by earning trust and protecting it. A leader is a person you will follow to a place you wouldn’t go by yourself. Terrorizing people into compliance does not earn you that kind of trust.
I guess if anyone reads this and it stings, they’ll know to check their own actions by way of their conscience.
If anyone wonders why I am no longer participating openly in a particular place, it is because I will not be an active part of a machine that chews up good people and spits them out. You can still contact me privately. I still have eyes, and I am still here. I will however only share my words where I know that all are treated well.
Posted on March 20, 2012, in General Blather, I Am That Wolf and tagged Autoimmunity, Friends, Leadership, Loyalty, Lupus, Lupus Awareness, Responsibility, SLE, Support, Support groups. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.